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What defines a relationship? Is by the way someone feel about another or just a simple symbiosis between someone in need of another person’s trait which could make up for his/her own. One will never know until they had been in a relationship, a real one of course. Here’s the problem; how do you know the relationship you are having now is true or fake? With constant reporting about news containing stories like infidelity, divorce, children born from wedlock and etc, sure those stuff will dwindle our faith on the relationship and even made us avoid it if possible.
Not those naïve love that one have during their school days. Not that I am against the ‘puppy love’ phenomenon, because I also felt that it is beautiful fun and 1st introduce you to love. You know, those feeling where you felt excited or as if there is a butterfly in your stomach when the one that you liked walked passed you, or a simple smile from him/her makes u felt dizzy or makes you think that you can actually fly up into the sky. The reason I say it is not counted because of the fact that puppy love is just a phase. The feeling that you had in the school days (primary and secondary) are just temporary. Of course, not to mean any disrespect to those who are in a relationship from those school days. It is because of the fact that one is just started to explore the possibilities of life, so the question is how can you say that you are having a real relationship when you are still new to the world. Of course you might be saying “I won’t be tempted by this and that” but how far are you committed to your so-called principle of life. The knowledge you’ve gained until that very phase is just like a drop of water compared to the entire sea in the world. You might be in love with him/her but that will change once you’ve have someone or something else which attracts you more. Cruel indeed but this is a fact which needs to be understood in order to live this world/life. Nevertheless, the world/life itself can equip you with knowledge which served you until the end of your life. So it is important to learn from that 1st step of love so that you will know when you had made a wrong choice or someone is trying to cheat on you. Don’t worry about being cheated, since every person in this world will surely been cheated once in their lifetime, so there is no need to feel bitter, dismay, or shame about it. You can think of it this way; ”Someone has treated me badly, so I know how it feels. In the future, I won’t be that sorrowful person whom I hate for cheating me and treat others the way I’ve been treated.” This helps when you are socializing with others. If you are hurt before, here is an advice for you, ‘love can sometimes be the best medicine’ or ‘There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around’. Not that I am being a hypocrite, but this actually prove to be helpful. Unless you are planning to remain with a sulky face all the time and hate love or life, then by all means continue to waste your precious time in doing non-fruitful things. You are the one who are going to lose precious time in your life. Don’t believe me? Do you still remember when you rode your first bicycle? Or who is the first friend you made in primary school. Not to mention the silly stuff you used to do back in your high school days which made you laugh every time you are reminded of them. I dare to say that you will felt like as if it just happened yesterday. Does it feel like time just flown by within a blink of an eye? The truth is time and time waits for no man which includes you. Why still stuck in your past and not move forward for there are still a lot of beautiful things for you to discover. Surely if you say that you need time to heal, then by all means take all the time you want because each people progresses at a different pace. Here is a common misunderstanding between taking time to heal and taking time to sulk. The difference is when you are taking time to heal, you are thinking of ways to occupy yourself so that you can forget the hurtful things or find a way to replace that hurt feelings with something else much more beautiful such as love and trust. Now here is the common mistake people made and still blame about the phrase ‘time heals’. If you take your time to sulk, it would be an entirely different meaning. People who use time to sulk will usually take the time to blame and think of how pitiful he/she is because of the problem faced. How can you find tranquility and happiness if you keep reliving in your past memories. Happiness doesn’t come looking for you but instead you have to work hard for it. In that way, you will be able to move forward. Good things are designed to be obtained by hardship so there is no shortcut to it. This is important so that you will be able to be grateful of the things you have and will never take them for granted ever.

When you are in a relationship, if you think that everyone will agree to your opinion is to a certain subject, then you’re still naïve. Whatever thing seemed pretty to you might be ugly to others, this applies to your partner as well since both of are 2 different beings with 2 different perspective of life. However this doesn’t make one of them wrong than the other. It is just a different point of perspective. Having a broader perspective on life or love will definitely make you less bitter or stuck up when dealing in those situations of respected type. There is nothing wrong in having more viewpoints for it help’s in creating more ideas and reasons to everything else. Everything in world is based on rational, but since we are talking about love, it is considered in a grey line between emotions and rational. One might argue if you are in love, wouldn’t it be better to feel it than to decipher it using rationality? Since people define feeling itself is a mysterious thing which only can be felt. The other argument is if we keep using emotion to judge and decide, wouldn’t it be bad since most crimes are committed through overreaction of the emotions. Nations and development are improved through rational thinking, not emotional. So which would we choose? The answer is simple enough, just be flexible. Let’s imagine this to help those who have trouble understanding. Imagine the situation you are facing as a strong storm, compare a weed with a strong stiff tree. Which have the higher possibility of surviving in the storm? Of course, it would be the weed which is much more flexible and adaptable to the environment and wind changes. This applies to our personality and our way of viewing a matter.